Married and Loving It!
How to Have a Seriously Happy Marriage
The Six Essential
Elements of a Seriously Happy Marriage
six essential elements of any seriously happy marriage are:
There is no
particular order to this list. Each
of the six elements adds its own vitality and strength to a marriage, and
is equally important to the success of a superb marriage.
if any element is missing, then the amount of joy to be experienced in a
marriage is lessened.
bit like making the most delicious cake in the world, which just happens
to need six vital ingredients. Each
part of the recipe adds its own goodness so that the less ingredients you
have, the less likely you are to have the cake that will satisfy your
deepest desire for delight.
a bit like a six-cylinder car.
Clanking Or Cruising
A car will
continue to run when some of its spark plugs are on the way out, or
already gone, but the same car will become less and less reliable with
less and less cylinders.
It is also
true that if all of the six cylinders are functioning, your car will be
much healthier. And if all
cylinders are in peak condition, you could have the ultimate ride.
sometimes our cars are Not running on all six cylinders.
sometimes our marriages are Not
running on all six cylinders. In
fact, sometimes we might even be attempting to cruise along with only one
marital cylinder still functioning.
Running On Empty
Or to use
the cake analogy, we might be trying to nourish our marriages on only one
ingredient. We may be
frantically trying to pretend that weíre eating our fill when all we
have is a little good manners or leftover love.
put an other way, we have left the home and are determinedly swimming up
ain't just a river in Egypt.
tend to find that love, great sex and romance can fluctuate due to a
variety of reasons ranging from hormones to in-laws to everything else.
So sometimes these elements of our relationship seem to be out of
our control. And sometimes
theyíre outside of our desires and needs and skill-sets.
still have 3 left-over elements of a seriously happy marriage and, lucky
for all of us, excellent communication, a sense of humour and good manners
can very often float a couple through rough marital seas.
It is, of
course, as equally true to say that love, great sex and romance can create
and hold a couple together regardless of what-else is missing.
way, itís still only half a marriage.
six elements together means being serious about the happiness you want to
experience in marriage. You
are, after all, creating a seriously happy marriage.
is like vitamins: we supplement each otherís minimum daily requirements.
So let's take a look at each of the six elements and how they can affect
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